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Episode 44: The Cost of Always Being ‘The Nice Girl’

April 17, 2025

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Being the “nice girl” might sound harmless… even admirable.

But what if always being nice is costing you your voice, your boundaries, your truth?

In this episode, I explore the hidden cost of being the one who keeps the peace, avoids conflict, and puts everyone else first. It’s not about being kind—it’s about over-functioning to feel safe and accepted.

You’ll hear:

  • How “niceness” becomes a coping mechanism, especially for women with trauma
  • The difference between kindness and self-abandonment
  • What it’s really costing you to be agreeable all the time
  • A gentle reminder that your truth matters more than anyone’s approval.

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You’re not HER anymore.

And it’s time to meet the girl you left behind.

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